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Teens – Growing a Heart for Wisdom

In Chapter 5 of Paul’s Tripp’s book Age of Opportunity, Paul gives these exhortations to parents of teens. The chapter is called “Parents, Meet your Teenager” and exhorts us to use the book of Proverbs to help our children gain a heart of wisdom.


“Win your children for wisdom.” (77)

“Remember, giving wisdom is not hitting your teenager over the head with words. It is putting a lovely garland around his neck. It’s giving him the world’s most valuable jewels. It is gold from God’s pocket to his hands.” (78)

“Don’t get sucked in. Don’t get locked out. Don’t engage in interpersonal war. Faithfully bring sweet words of wisdom and loving words of correction. Hold what is valuable before your teenager and trust God to produce, in his or her heart, a love for truth.”

“Pursue your teenager.”

“We cannot and we must not reduce godly living to a set of rules. Godliness is humble, thankful worship that causes us to desire what God says is valuable and to do what god says will bring him glory.” (82)

“We cannot and we must not reduce godly living to a set of rules. Godliness is humble, thankful worship that causes us to desire what God says is valuable and to do what god says will bring him glory.” (82)

“The stakes are high. Human legalism leads to human self-righteousness. Human self-righteousness denies the need for the saving, enabling grace of Christ. . . . We must help our children to see their rebellion of heart, and take them to Christ, who is their righteousness.” (83)

“Friendship is very important. A person is known by the company he keeps. It is impossible to be uninfluenced by one’s friends. Yet teenagers typically assume that they won’t be influenced and will respond to our concern with “I can handle it.” “(84)

“One of my goals with my teenagers is not only to teach them about God and his will, but to help them know themselves. I want them to become aware of the themes of their own struggle with sin, the themes of their weaknesses, and their susceptibility to temptation.” (90)

Tripp’s Example of a parent communicating repentance to a teen child – “I’m sure there are times when I miss things that I should deal with. But I think you know that I love each of you and I seek to be what God wants me to be in your lives. I would be glad at another time to talk about my parenting. I’d love to let you know what it’s like and to learn what I look like from your perspective, but right now we need to talk about you” (p.81).

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October 6, 2015 - Posted by | Uncategorized

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